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Thank you this beautifully written essay. I completely resonated with this piece. I have been struggling with "being authentic, confident, calm, and original" for a while myself although I never labelled it or described it as "being cool". I think the idea of labelling it cool makes it cool! 😁

I feel that the journey to finding the authentic and original self is an inner journey into truly understanding oneself. In this process, I have come in touch with many emotional layers which need to be peeled to get to the authentic self and "being cool". I think this process is unique for each individual. May be for some its easy and effortless and for some like me it has been and continues to be a very painful and difficult journey of self discovery. I can say that this journey has been the most gratifying and fulfilling for me. I continue on this path with a deep desire to get to my cool self, where I am in an effortless state of flow, expressing myself freely and fully with authenticity and uniqueness.

I am looking forward to getting there sooner than later!

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definitely a journey, and i agree that it comes easier for some than for others, i tend to think for people who are more aligned with society and internally aligned (didn’t go through lots of inner conflict), it comes a bit easier, but there are tradeoffs to every kind of journey, so just getting closer to it is a win

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So many awesome lines in here. Cultivating the cool . . . life's mission. Love it!

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glad to hear, thanks for reading!

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cool essay!

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thank you!!😊

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Love this concept.

I think as we get older, we’ve gone through enough iterations of being “cool” that we can afford to be selective.

It’s only a matter of leaning into our cool and sticking to it when others think otherwise.

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agreed, a matter of figuring out what that thing is to select for it

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There are so many great lines. I feel so grateful to have stumbled upon this well-written piece. Question for you: what did you mean by changing something tangible about yourself? Does this mean a physical appearance, mindset, or both?

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yas

the physics/temperature dimension fits here too. water molecules in ice have found their place. water molecules in air are scattered+bouncing everywhere

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